Golden Keyes Parsons sending greetings from a frigid Central Texas winter day. We moved from the mountains to get away from the cold! Nevertheless, I'm warm and cozy by the fire, ready to share more tips about speaking. When we prepare our message or talk for a group, we anticipate they will listen with rapt attention to every word. The truth is …
"Manners are the beginning of integrity."
The first time I read that quote I thought how simple yet profound. I pondered for a moment how simple etiquette reveals immediately whether or or not we courteous, considerate and grateful. And, when it is present it refreshes everyone who happens to encounter it.
As speakers, we are often the ultimate focal point of someone's event. Therefore we are lavished with praise, gifts and our every need is attempted to met. In return, what are we giving beside a great talk?
Having been both a Women's Ministry Leader and still a speaker I have sat on both sides of the table. Therefore, I'd like to share from a Hostess's point of view for a moment. For example, I remember…
Observing one speaker's table manners and how it revealed her lack of patience. She immediately reached across the table for the sweetner and in an irritable manner called the waitress because she hadn't gotten her 2nd cup of coffee quickly enough " Note: Your hostess wants you to model what they want the audience to become.
On the other hand another speaker stated "Please," upon her every request and "Thank You" at every appropriate opportunity. Note: A hostess desires to be respected as a person and leader.
One quite famous speaker revealed her gratitude for the opportunity to speak by giving more in her gift to us than the honorium we were able to afford to give her. Note: Prepare to always have a gift to say thank you to your host church and something special also for the one who might host you personally.
These examples helped set the bar for me as an up and coming speaker.
As Christian speakers we can re-ignite the flame of good manners by modeling them whether its daily among family and friends or when we are called to speak at a humble or highly attended event.
Speaking was the most effective and efficient way to reach our audience for many years. Now,we are writing more than ever and reaching a greater audience. In the midst of this, sometimes exciting and other times challenging change, it is easy to forget the value of keeping our speaking skills strong.
Golden Keyes Parsons here looking forward to celebrating the birth of our Savior in just a little more than a week. It is a festive season with a flurry of activities. Many of us have speaking engagements this time of year, and a luncheon, tea or banquet is usually the preferred event rather than a retreat. Although it is easier to come up with a one-session message, we only have one shot at them. What we have to say needs to be crisp and to the point.
Let's continue our discussion with some speaker DON'Ts this time…
Golden Keyes Parsons here in Central Texas where the leaves are just beginning to turn and fall. We don't have near the beautiful color in our trees as in New England or the Rockies where the aspen turn the mountains to gold, but every now and then one will see a tree showing off its color.
It is also a popular season for retreats and luncheons, so let's continue with our Speaker Do's and Don'ts. We discussed five last time: 1. DO speak on your passion. 2. DO speak to the listener's heart. 3. DO be aware of the doctrine of the group. 4. DO keep a bag ready with things to take. 5. DO remember the speaker is always on stage.