In Discovering Joy in Philippians, I share that the book of Philippians, while known as the book about JOY, is also full of great relationship information.

We see Paul’s priority of relationships in Phil 1:3-6

I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

Make a list of those you are thankful for and those you are in partnership with. Call them, send a card, text a thank you, post a praise on their social media wall.

Pam and Bill Farrel are authors of 48 books, international speakers, and relationship experts who minister to people through their Living Love-Wise community. 

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This is my favorite photo of my husband with our sons. He is their hero!

Father’s Day  is a great time to o two things

(1) Thank your earthly father with a card, a call or companionship. Tell him why you are appreciative and grateful. Honoring your mom and dad comes with a nice “boomerrang” promise too!

Ephesians 6:1-3

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 

(2) Take time to tell your Heavenly Father thanks too! Take a prayer walk and thank Him for what you see along your path; pull out a photo album or the gallery on your smart phone and scroll through photo memories and give him praise; Or kneel and honor Him in humility by praising Him for his character traits, attributes and names.  Abba is the name Jewish children call out to their father, it means “Daddy” Thanks your Abba Father for walking alongside you and His spirit being in you.

the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15) 

Pam is married to Bill, a leader of men. Bill speaks internationally to men often on his books for men, 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make; 7 Simple Skills for Every Man; and Devotions for Men on the Go. Learn more about Bill’s ministry to men at www.Love-Wise.com

 

 

 

 

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I have found it is A LOT easier to DISCOVER JOY if you are looking for it! This summer, let’s go on a #JoyHunt

But let all who take refuge in You be glad, Let them ever sing for joy; And may You shelter them, That those who love Your name may exult in You. (Psalm 3:11)

I created this Radiant Joy Praise sheet so those going through Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience — or anyone who wants more joy in their lives, can keep track of the goodness of God and the #JOYMoments He gives.

Post it on your refrigerator and let the JOY radiat from your heart as you capture God’s goodness and grace~!

 

Pam Farrel is the bestselling author of Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience and Discovering Hope in the Psalms, She makes her home on a live-aboard boat slipped in So Ca. Connect to Pam and see more of her bible teaching on the Bill and Pam Farrel Facebook page.

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What makes you “jump for joy”? This May, the week of my birthday, my 48th book released: Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience.  How about you, look around, God is doing amazing things– some of which should motivate you to “jump for joy”! Jumping, rather leaping, for joy is biblical:

“Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven. ..” (Luke 6:23)

Let’s make this summer  of JOY!

Pam Farrel is an international speaker, author of 48 books including several bestsellers like Men Are Like WAffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, Discovering Hope in the Psalms and Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience. (co-authored with Jean E Jones and Karla Dornacher, from Harvest House)  Pam and her husband, Bill have been married almost 40 years, and that makes them REJOICE!  Together they Co-Direct Love-Wise. The Farrels call their live aboard boat docked in Southern Ca. home.

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With Valentine’s Day season upon us, you might wonder how spell L.O.V.E.  In our  book, The First Five Years, we explain how to create a memorable romantic encounter for your spouse no matter how many years you are married. (And we will adapt this for those who are single and dating).  Keep this acrostic for LOVE in mind as you make plans to wow the one you love:

 

Listen

Observe

Vary

Extract

 

Listen

Your spouse will drop hints about the things he or she loves and you can use these hints to create more romance and sizzle in your relationship. For example, if you listen to Bill and me in a casual lunch conversation, you would  discern  that Bill loves things like: Football, fishing, cooking, joke telling, and the Bible.  If you listen to Pam you’d discover she loves travel, biking, swimming, tennis, laughing, and helping women—and the spa!

It doesn’t take much imagination then to know that if I (Pam) give Bill a day of ocean fishing or if he gave me a day at the spa, we would be more interested in each other at the end of that day. But it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Kayaking is on both our lists, so we have a goal to have a kayak date in every state we travel to for business. Walking and biking are also on both of our lists, so an evening stroll, or a leisurely cycle around a lake near us is apt to also put us in the mood. Bill and I keep a running list of “loves” we discover about one another while listening.

Observe

On the TV show Sherlock (and in the classic books with this character),  Sherlock Holmes wows the audience by his keen detective skills of observation. You can become a detective and easily observe what will bless and ignite your spouse:

  • What raises stress in your partner?—then make a plan to lower it
  • What lifts the spirit?—then make a plan to repeat it
  • What calms the atmosphere?—then recreate it
  • What things are collectible?—then add to it
  • When he or she sighs and relaxes?—then repeat it
  • What draws him/her to you?—then protect it

 Vary

            For married couples, when it comes to intimacy, don’t get in a rut.  Vary the romance. In our book, Red Hot Monogamy, inspired by Song of Songs, we give over 200 Red Hot Romance ideas. The King and the Bride in song of Songs model for couples simple romantic inspirations. And they make time together a priority, “My beloved speaks and says to me: “Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away,” {Song pf Songs 2:10)

One of the easiest ways to vary the experience is to keep the five senses in mind. Vary the places you date, mix the style from dressy to down to earth. Or try adding new sounds/music, scents, textures, or tastes.  If you go to dinner each Thursday, next week eat it on the rooftop, or on a blanket at the park. If you usually work out as a couple, then make the next date a payoff- get some new athletic wear and try out a new activity.

Extract

To extract love, take an old idea and give it a new spin. Personalize it, shake it up, add to it. For example, because we are relationship communicators, we are usually pretty busy around Valentine’s Day. Often we have to be at the NRB (National Religious Broadcasters) conference. No offense to those in Christian radio, but the NRB isn’t the most romantic place to be around on Valentine’s Day. We have decided, however, to make it romantic the years we need to be there. One year, Bill scanned the covers of all the books we have written and made a series of greeting cards with personal love messages that used the titles as a part of a pun, like “It has been “Pure Pleasure” being marriage to you”.  Every hour all day, he gave me a card with a new message and tiny gift.

 

L.O.V.E: Listen, observe, vary and extract to create a love to look forward to living. It is possible to keep love as red hot as those candy hearts you munch on each Valentine’s Day—it just takes a little creativity and some L.O.V.E.

 

Pam and Bill Farrel are relationship specialists, international speakers and best selling authors of Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti, Red Hot Monogamy and The First Five Years: Make the Love Investment (www.Love-Wise.com) When they are not traveling to speak on marriage or family, you will find them at home on their live aboard boat in Southern California.

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