One the wall of our bedroom is a beautiful portrait taken by a well known photographer. The
photo is black and white then recolorized to highlight certain aspects of the portrait. The picture is of Bill and me. In the photo you can’t see our faces because I am wearing a hat, but you can tell, it was a kiss of love. How?
In the photo, I am standing on my tippie toes reaching up to give Bill a kiss. That peck was apparently was so amazing that it caused Bill to rock back on his heels. (I think this might be where the term, “head over heels in love” came from). The look of our feet in this position of a public display of affection was the selling point, and this photo became the front cover of a Focus on the Family book on marriage.
When I had the photograph framed, this verse seemed so appropriate:
Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other.
(Ps 85:10 NIV).
The linking and balance of each couplet is what it takes to have long lasting love:
Love AND faithfulness: The passion of love ignites the flame of intimacy but it is the commitment to faithfulness and fidelity that KEEPS passion alive year after year. Trust is built with a secure knowledge your mate is faithful!
Righteousness AND Peace: In marriage, it is important to do things RIGHT. Skills like communication, kindness, and servanthood are just a few of the building blocks for love. Sometimes well meaning spouses fall into the no win trap of pointing out all the “improvements” the other can make in the relationship. It is easy for the other person to perceive this stance as he or she always needs to be “right”. Pushing for what you think is right, is not always “right”. That is where peace comes in.
Peacemaking and peacekeeping is the equalizer to pushing for the precise. Sometimes we each need to accommodate for the other to bring peace. Give grace over preferences and save your opinions for the things that truly reflect righteousness like keeping a promise, living with integrity, or committing to love your mate as God loves him or her.
Pam and Bill Farrel are international speakers, authors of 45 books including bestselling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, and A Couples Journey with God devotional. Together they help people with their most vital relationship through their ministry Love-Wise,–the intersection where God’s wisdom and God’s love “kiss”.