Kathy Collard Miller

Kathy Collard Miller is an award winning author of over 50 non-fiction books, including Pure-Hearted: The Blessings of Living Out God’s Glory and No More Anger: Hope for an Out-of Control Mom, which is her testimony. After God delivered her from being a child abuser, He opened doors for her speaking and writing other books like Never Ever Be the Same (co-authored with husband, Larry) and Partly Cloudy with Scattered Worries.

Kathy’s formerly published twelve books in the “Daughters of the King Bible study series” are currently being expanded and re-published through Elk Lake Publishers. Choices of the Heart and Whispers of My Heart are currently available. Over 500 articles penned by Kathy have appeared in magazines and blogs.

A popular women’s conference speaker, Kathy has spoken in over 30 states and 8 foreign countries. She loves speaking at women’s retreats as then she has extended time with the women attending. Kathy and her husband, who were married in 1970, also speak together on marriage and are lay-counselors. Larry is a retired police lieutenant.
Kathy has appeared on many TV programs including the 700 Club and 100 Huntley Street, and numerous radio programs.

Kathy and Larry, who live in Southern California, have two grown children and two grandchildren.

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Website: www.KathyCollardMiller.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KathyCollardMillerAuthor?fref=ts
Twitter: @KathyCMiller
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kathyspeak/

For more information or retreat topics please click: www.KathyCollardMiller.com.

Books:

Speaking:

  • STOP MOTHERHOOD! I WANT TO GET OFF!
    Kathy tells the poignant story of how God enabled her to overcome her abusive reactions.
  • WHY DO I PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON MYSELF AND OTHERS?
    Kathy reveals how to diminish perfectionism.
  • WHEN COUNTING TO TEN ISN’T ENOUGH
    Kathy offers hope about the causes and solutions for anger.
  • PREVENT STRESS FROM BECOMING DISTRESS
    Kathy examines worry, unrealistic expectations, priorities and time pressures.
  • DISCIPLINE CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY
    Kathy presents ideas that answer the questions that every parent has about responding to a child’s disobedience.
  • MEET YOUR HUSBAND’S SIGNIFICANCE NEEDS
    A wise wife can learn how to meet her husband’s needs for significance by becoming his lover, respecter, and helper, along with developing her individual identity.
  • FIND CONTENTMENT IN A DISAPPOINTING WORLD
    Kathy presents solutions for contentment cheaters like the physical body, people, problems, and possessions.
  • YOUR VIEW OF GOD
    In this interactive presentation, Kathy helps women identify God’s attributes and any wrong assumptions about His nature.
  • LISTENING TO GOD’S VOICE
    From I Kings 19, Kathy uncovers principles for hearing God’s voice, even in the midst of busy lives. GOD IS WORTHY TO BE PRAISED Within Psalm 103, Kathy relates motivating and inspirational ideas for praising God.
  • STAYING FRIEND WITH YOUR KIDS
    Parents can respond to their children as they are growing up so that when those children are grown, they all can be firm friends. Kathy tells you how.

Endorsements:

We love Kathy so much that we had her speak at two of our last three retreats. She continues to demonstrate a depth and authenticity that encourages women to be real, open and honest with God, themselves and each other. Her practical messages are coupled with a style that is both humorous and tender and allows God to work through her to deeply touch the hearts and lives of women who hear her speak.
-Stephanie Kornman, Director of Women’s Ministry
The Church at Rancho Bernardo
San Diego, CA

We used “Daughters of the King” as our topic for our annual retreat, and Kathy lived it out in front of us. She was so well prepared. She was able to take the Scripture and make it applicable to every women there, through her knowledge and study of God’s word.
-Leslie Daniel, Director of Women’s Ministry
Kenai Christian Church
Kenai, Alaska

I am very careful to bring in not only good speakers, but also those who have a heart for women, who really do care…care enough to speak from their heart but also share their heart whether it be in the hallways, at the banquet tables or at their product table. Kathy was all that and more.
-Ann Downing
Middle Tennessee Women’s Retreat
Nashville, Tennessee

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Where Does Stability Reside?

Discovering Joy in Philippians

In Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience, we look at verses that show the path to true joy. Having a stable life with a sure foundation does make life more joyful. Let’s take a quick glance at Psalms 15 to see the stepping stones to stability (note the bold faced italicized words):

Lord, who may dwell in your sacred tent?
    Who may live on your holy mountain? 

The one whose walk is blameless,
    who does what is righteous,
    who speaks the truth from their heart;
whose tongue utters no slander,
    who does no wrong to a neighbor,
    and casts no slur on others;
who despises a vile person
    but honors those who fear the Lord;
who keeps an oath even when it hurts,
    and does not change their mind;
who lends money to the poor without interest;
    who does not accept a bribe against the innocent.

Whoever does these things
will never be shaken.

Which one of the boldfaced stepping stones will bring more stability, thus more serenity to your life in the coming year? Reread Psalms 15 and ask, “Lord, what do I need to change so that I can dwell on Your Holy Hill and not be shaken?” 

Pam Farrel is a author of 50+ books, including the new Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience (co-authored with Jean E Jones and Karla Dornacher) . www.Love-Wise.com

 

 

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A Joyful New Year!

“Do everything without grumbling… ” Phil 2:14

Maybe 2019 was tough year and you find yourself complaining a lot. You want to break the habit, but aren’t sure how. Here are twelve helpful tips to remember when you are tempted to grumble:

1. Turn on worship music
2.Go on a prayer walk
3. Do Bible Art
4.Bible study
5.Post a verse on social media
6. Go out in nature
7.Play with your kids or grandkids
8.Donate time and talent to a good cause
9.Help someone less fortunate
10. Look for a silver lining
11. Count your blessings
12.Praise God for His names or traits.

You might also want to do a Bible study on joy:
Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience

Pam Farrel is the author of 52 books including bestselling Discovering Hope in the Psalms; Discovering Joy in Philippians, and Discovering Jesus in the Old Testament.

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Joy is a verb!

One of the benefits of writing about joy, like Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience,  is that you learn many unique facts that can in turn help you and those in your ministry.

In the New Testament, a common word is JOY! χαρὰ  (chara) from chairó is in N. T. 74 times! When God repeats Himself– that is a sign of importance or priority– so obviously His ability to help us walk in joy is on His heart!

To great someone and wish them JOY, was a a common greeting and farewell salutation. (Wouldn’t the world be a better place today if we exchanged our casual, “What’s up , dude?” For “May you be joyous and thrive!”

Some of the meanings for this word, Joy, are:

To rejoice ; Be glad: cheerful

  Rejoice exceedingly

  To be well/ thrive

  To lean in; favorable disposed to   happiness 

and our ability, the power to actually walk in joy is because this word, joy, is often  connected to God’s grace & redemption. Yes, life transformation and a welcome entrance to heaven is plenty cause to rejoice!

But by far, my favorite descriptive meaning of JOY! (χαρὰ ) is that Joy is CALM DELIGHT! This is my favorite definition because it gives me something to DO when depression, stress, discouragement comes rolling my way.

For example, if I get bad news, instead of giving into discouragement, anger, frustration or any of many negative, non-productive emotions, I can push pause, stop, and pray, Lord, right now show me what I can do, think, say that will calm me (or calm the situation). Or Lord, what can I I do, think, say, experience that would be a healthy delight?  

To prepare for success, today, make a list of things you can do, say, think that seem to calm you.

Then make a list of healthy, positive delightful distractive, experiences, thoughts, actions you can do when negative circumstances or emotions come your way.

Join me for some CALM DELIGHT, and be a part of my FREE online Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience.

Click to learn more or register.   

Pam Farrel
Pam Farrel

Pam Farrel is one of the three authors of Discovering Joy in Philippians (coauthored with Jean E Jones and Karla Dornacher)  When Pam is not writing, she enjoys calm delights like drinking cold iced tea while resting on the deck of her live aboard boat, kayaking or paddle boarding near her “home” on the ocean or walking the beach hand in hand with her husband, Bill. Together they co-direct Love-Wise.

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Joy is Celebration!

When you are experiencing JOY, what is your response? Do you do a happy dance? Jump for joy? High five someone near?  Throw a party?

The Bible clearly connects joy with celebration. Here are a few verses:

When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. Psalm 94:19 explains this word meaning of joy as  a delight or to play.

When was the last time you jumped up and down in delight and glee over something God had done for you? Do you celebrate with God when He pulls you up out of despair and rescues you from stress and anxiety?

Or picture the glee of a child on a swing, jumping off the diving board, tossing a twirling baton or making designs in the nigh sky with a sparkler. Is that how you feel about your relationship with God?

Today, express yourself with the joy of a child and truly celebrate God — in a way more exuberant that you cheer for your favorite sports team!

I would love to add to your glee and delight by having you join me for Discovering Joy in Philippians online Bible Study beginning Sept 18. It’s free! (That’s cause for delight!)

And make Discovering Joy a party– invite your friends, your church group, your gal pals from work, or be a friendly neighbor and invite those living near you to join you.

The Discovering the Bible series is the result of team effort: Jean E Jones write the Bible study, Karla Dornacher is the artist who creates beautiful coloring pages and book marks, and Pam writes the devotionals to help apply what you are learning to your real life.

 

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Joy is Strength

In writing our first in the series of Discovering the Bible: Discovering Hope in the Psalms: A Creative Bible Study Experience, we dug into the familiar passage of Psalm 1. Immediately, my heart began a consistent prayer, Lord, make me a strong Psalm 1 tree! The first time I read that psalm, evn as a child, I knew I wanted to be one of those trees that no storm, no wind, no natural disaster could topple– but reflecting on the Psalm now, more than 50 years later, I see through life experience, just HOW MUCH we need God to help us become that strong, stable, Psalm 1 tree– and live a life He can bless!

 

Blessed is the one
    who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
    or sit in the company of mockers,
but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
    and who meditates on his law day and night.
That person is like a tree planted by streams of water,
    which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither—
    whatever they do prospers (Psalm 1:1-3 NIV) 

So when writing Discovering Joy in Philippians, God reminded me that joy in HIM is the pathway to strength in life. My assignment was to help others, as they studied Philippians, to connect to God in a personal and powerful way, so that through God’s Word, their lives could also be fortified by the Almighty.

In Nehemiah 8:10, we see a straightforward statement:

The JOY of the Lord is your strength (Neh 8:10)

Elliot’s commentary shares, “This beautiful sentence is, literally, delight in Jehovah is a strong refuge.”

In my personal study notes, after looking up key words, I have:

The JOY (gladness and rejoicing) of the Lord (Yahweh) is your strength (place of safety, protection, defense, a fortress, refuge and stronghold)

The Israelites in this story, were being led by Nehemiah and the priest Ezra, to rebuild the wall to protect the temple after being in exile (for their disobedience). Nehemiah give them meaningful work that honored God, Ezr gave them meaningful worship and call ed them to stand and listen to the Word of God.

The people realized they had drifted from God, and so were in grief and mourning. But their wise leaders knew that after repentance, staying in a state of shame, guilt and despair would be counter productive to finishing the wall and to their future calling to walk out being God’s chosen, anointed, people. So Ezra commanded them to stop grieving and celebrate!

In celebration and worship of God, we too can find strength!

 

Today, follow the footsteps of strength, do one or more of the following:

  • Repent of your disobedience, drifting, or defiance of God or God’s Word
  • Listen to the Word (on audio, on You Tube, in church, on radio or podcast. )
  • Worship God through song and celebration. 

In doing these, you will discover a strength building in your life too.

I would like the honor of helping build strength into your life through an online study of Discovering Joy in Philippians (Sept 18-Dec 4)

Register for the FREE study today. 

Pam Farrel is Co-Director of Love-Wise, with her husband, Bill, who she has been JOYously married to for 40 years. She is also author of 48 books, and an international speaker. She enjoys time with her far-flung family, and kayaking to get her mail from her live aboard boat in Southern Ca.

 

 

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Guard Our Minds, Lord

If I am lost in a city, I like to go to a map so I can see the “big picture.” The same thing is true of discerning God’s will. Having an overall general understanding of God’s book, character, actions and words helps us to understand God and to understand how He works.

In 7 Simple Skills for Every Woman: Success in Keeping It All Together, I suggest one of these  ideas to layer God’s Word into your life:

  1. Read the Bible through in a year. The One-Year Bible or one of Tyndale’s One Year Bible Devotionals, like Devotions for

    Women on the Go
    Women On the Go/Men On the Go Book Set

    Women on the Go are options.  You might read a new translation or use a different study tool as you read, but year after year – even if it takes you a few years to read it through – God’s Word will become anchored into your heart.

  2. Study the Bible chronologically. Studying the Bible this way has helped me form my philosophy and methodology of ministry. For example, because I see how God lays foundations, then builds on them, I want to do the same in my ministry.
  3. Study the character of God. By studying who God is, I get to see how He thinks, acts, and relates to people. When I am in a tough spot, especially when I have to make a quick decision, I go back and ask, “What would God’s character have me do?” This year, I had several important decisions on my mind, decisions that would dramatically impact my family, my ministry and my future. I felt compelled to travel back to the place I started my Christian walk more than 30 years ago – in the book of Matthew.
  4. Discovering Hope in the Psalms
    Discovering Hope in the Psalms

    I re-read all the words of Jesus in the gospels, seeking the heart of God on the matter before me.

  5. Dive Deep Into A Topic: For several years, I have been in the psalms. First as one of the writers for Discovering Hope in the Psalms: A Creative Bible Study Experience, then the following few years as a teacher of that study of the Psalms. The benefit of a focused topical study is you move closer to the heartbeat of God in that area of life or scripture.

Other ideas for study are the names of God in the Old Testament, the verses that speak of God as the Father, the names Christ is called in the Old and New Testament, and the names and character of the Holy Spirit. When you layer God’s Word into your life on a daily basis, you gain the ability to see things from God’s perspective. Jesus explains it with the phrase, “You are in me and I in you” (John 14:20, John 17:21-22). The Word of God is the key ingredient in protecting your life: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov. 4:23).

Pam Farrel
Pam Farrel

Discovering Joy in Philippians by Pam Farrel
Discovering Joy In Philippians by Pam Farrel

About Pam Farrel: She is the bestselling author of 46 books including several devotionals: Devotions for Women on the Go; A Couples’ Journey with God, and Discovering Hope in the Psalms: A Creative Bible Study Experience, and soon to be released Discovering Joy in Philippians. The Farrels are the Co-Directors of Love-Wise.

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Guard Our Emotions, Lord!

Several years ago, I was experiencing a season of hardships. The emotional pressure in my life had escalated – facing deadline upon deadline, bad medical news, grief over my father’s death, plus the daily stress of church leadership and family responsibilities. I sat in my doctor’s office in tears. All I wanted to do was escape, and drive to the beach to spend time with God. Only by talking to God, and having Him talk to me through the Word would salve this pain.

I knew that I would be okay if I could just get to the beach and let God’s love wash over me like the waves wash over the sand. So I drove home, told my husband I would be gone for a few hours, and I grabbed my Bible, journal, and a few devotional books. I rushed to the beach, anxious to spend time with God. I read, prayed, journaled, walked, listened – and read some more. Finally, both peace and a plan came.

Today, this is still my path to peace. The Psalmist agrees. “My soul finds rest in God alone!” Find a cozy place with God today, cuddle up with the Word, and let the peace of God wash over you. God’s peace is like the waves that wash over your toes planted in the sands, so faithful to come to shore, wave after wave, God’s peace will come to your heart, verse after verse, from His Word.

Pam Farrel is the bestselling author of 46 books including Discovering Hope in the Psalms, Becoming a Brave New Woman, and 7 Simple Skills for Every Woman. With her husband Bill, she runs Love-Wise and helps people with their most vital relationships, with God, in marriage and family, and friendships. Fin hope and help for your family at Living Love-Wise Community 

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Guard Our Hearts, Lord!

One woman who had sat in a Bible-teaching church Sunday after Sunday for over 10 years told me something one day that took my breath away. She had been having an affair with her best friend’s husband! Those in her world had counseled her, confronted her in love, shown her care and compassion – everything possible to help her see the trauma she was causing two families – then one day she eloped with this man! When she arrived back in town, I saw her at one of our children’s sporting events. She was so excited. She was flitting from person to person showing her ring and wedding pictures. When she arrived in front of Bill and I, we were shocked by her flippancy, “Oh, aren’t you excited for me? I just knew it was God’s will that we marry because after the ceremony, I looked up and there was a ring around the moon!”

“A ring around the moon!” my heart screamed with sadness. Her heart had drifted so far from God’s Word that her decision-making ability had become irrational. That day has stayed with me – primarily because it wasn’t an isolated incident.

A best friend, married to a minister, told me God had led her to an Internet chat room where she encountered a man who met her emotional and sexual needs. Another woman, who had been a committed women’s leader for years, told me at a retreat, “I was praying about whether to leave my current ministry, and I saw a butterfly and thought, “Butterflies are free; I am free from this ministry calling now. I am released to fly on to something else. Something for me.”

Our world has become so feelings-based and experiential, women are hopping from one emotional high to another. Sadly, this thinking is also creeping into the church, and into church leadership.

 

Seeing this, I feel compelled to be in the Word daily because every day that I might  lean on an experience or emotion rather than on God and His Word is one more day my heart drifts further from truth, and further from God. If I don’t gird up my mind with the truth, I will drift from the truth.

One way to protect your heart is to learn the strength and wisdom found when you dig deeper into God’s Word. In Discovering Hope in the Psalms: A Creative Bible Study Experience, you will learn the skills and the joys of being in the Word of God on a daily journey to find hope and help through God’s Word.

 

 

Pam Farrel is an international speaker, and bestselling author of 46 books including her newest, Discovering Hope in thePsalms and

7 Simple Skills for Every Woman: Success In Keeping It All Together. She and her husband, Bill co-direct Love-Wise. When they are not traveling for speaking, they love long walks on the beach.

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Buckingham Strong

On one of our trips overseas we were able to take a day and spend it in London, England. The highlight for me were the guards of Buckingham Palace. Those guards were so self disciplined, vigilant and stalwart—nothing could shake them from their duty! It reminded me of 1 Cor 15:58, “Therefore, my brothers and sisters, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” (CSB) I have always pondered, just “HOW can I be steadfast and immovable in a world that always seems to shake us to the core?”

In Becoming a Brave New Woman, I share an example: It was one of those days. It must have been a Monday. I had been away speaking all weekend. I picked up the phone to gather voice-mail messages. “You have 31 messages.” I put down the receiver, discouraged. A stack of correspondence, a half-finished manuscript, and my email screen all stared back at me demanding a response. I was officially overwhelmed.

Becoming a Brave New Woman by Pam Farrel
Becoming a Brave New Woman by Pam Farrel

I had made a commitment to God, that I would spend time with Him before I would start my workday, but this day I hadn’t had my quiet time yet. I reached across the desk and picked up my dog-eared copy of Daily Light for the Daily Path, a book that gathers verses of the Bible together by topic, and has a Bible reading for each morning and evening. I opened to January 8th and read: “I know whom I have believed and am convinced that He is able. Able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine. Able to make all grace abound to you so that in all things at all times, having all you need, you will abound in every good work . . . Able to guard what I have entrusted . . . Who by the power that enables Him to bring everything under His control . . . Do you believe I am able to do this? . . . According to your faith it will be done to you.”

ABLE! ABLE! ABLE! I felt free to be me and let God be God. I thought of several friends in ministry who might also be encouraged by receiving this same devotional page. I turned to January 8th to copy it. It wasn’t there. I turned to February 8th – not there either. I turned to March 8th. It was the March 8th reading, but I had read it on January 8th! I’d been so preoccupied, I’d read the wrong page – but God had me read the right day for me! He is Able!

 

Pam Farrel is an international speaker, author of 46 books and bestselling author of Discovering Hope in the Psalms: A Creative Bible Study Experience (co-authored with Jean E Jones and artist Karla Dornacher) Pam and her husband Bill have now celebrated their 39th anniversary, and are the Co-Directors of Love-Wise. Their home is a live aboard boat docked in Southern California. The Farrels invite all their friends, readers and CAN community to join the Living Love-Wise Community.