What we live is first what we think. So what does God want us to think about that will elevate our mind, soul, spirit and life?
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. (Phil 4:8)
As a child, first born daughter of an alcoholic dad, I was naturally joyful but our home situation was chaotic and unpredictable so when things got volatile due to my dad’s anger or his own depression, I retreated and became a sullen, sometimes, pouty and often emotionally teary-eyed little girl. But God had something greater, something better for me and He also has something better for you, too!: JOY!
Recently, I gave a speech for my Joy Jubilee birthday bash, and I shared a few things I have learned about joy—for the next few weeks, I will share them with you too—in bite-sized nuggets.
Joy is Relationship
The book of Philippians is often tagged the book of JOY, and the first chapter of Philippians is all about RELATIONSHIP:
I thank my God every time I remember you. 4 In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy 5 because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, . . . 7 It is right for me to feel this way about all of you, since I have you in my heart (Phil 1:3-7)
This thread of relationship continues through out the book, like in this verse from Phil 4:1 where Paul calls the believers at Philippi his JOY!:
Therefore, my brothers and sisters, you whom I love and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm in the Lord in this way, dear friends! (Phil 4:1)
Today, apply these relationship verses by:
Thanking God and praying for those you love—those who bring you joy.
Tell those you love HOW they bring you JOY and thank them.
Speaking of relationships: More than 30 influential Christian leaders have endorsed Discovering Joy!
There is no joy without Jesus! Only happiness that depends on happenings. Knowing Christ brings Joy. This is what our distraught world needs. Read Discovering Joy in Philippians, a new creative Bible study experience.
One of the best ways to build relationship is to be THANKFUL! Others want to lend a helping hand to those who are grateful and appreciative! Look for ways to thank those that surround and support you. As an author thank your publisher, and all who work for them; thank book store owners, meeting planners, blog site hosts, magazine editors, radio and TV producers, pastors—and even other authors who have said or done kind things for you. This is the time of year to send out thanksgiving cards with a note of appreciation, a Christmas card with a personal note or if you can afford it, a small gift. If another holiday better reflects your message, send out thank you’s then—like we do at Love-Wise by sending Valentine greetings!
Go Back and Give Thanks!
Even Jesus commended the one he healed who took the time to come back and say, “Thanks!”
And as he entered a village, he was met by ten lepers, who stood at a distance and lifted up their voices, saying, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us.” When he saw them he said to them, “Go and show yourselves to the priests.” And as they went they were cleansed. Then one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, praising God with a loud voice; and he fell on his face at Jesus’ feet, giving him thanks. Now he was a Samaritan. 17 Then Jesus answered, “Were not ten cleansed? Where are the nine? 18 Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?” And he said to him, “Rise and go your way; your faith has made you well.”[ (Luke 17:12-18)
Look Forward and Plan Thanks!
Say thanks with:
A photo or a photo greeting card (like from Send Out Cards)
A simple tool to lower the receiver ’s stress: a fun pen with stylist, sticky notes, protein bar, cup holder, USB drive, a travel accessory—or even something as simple as mints. Pinterest is a great place to find creative thank you ideas with clever play on words.
♥ Admire in a letter or with your verbal praise a good qualities
♥ Applaud his/her effort or an accomplishment
♥ Approve of his/her choice (of anything) heartily!
♥ Commend of him/her in front of his friends or colleagues
♥ Compliment one physical features
♥ Positively inquire more information about an interest
♥ Laud an accomplishment with a gift or a family party to celebrate.
♥ Warm toward an idea by asking to learn more.
♥ Support one a dreams by placing a photo on your desk or refrigerator.
♥ Sympathize with an emotional hurt with a hug.
♥ Enthusiastically embrace an opinion with an “I so agree!”
♥ Show pleasure of his/her company with a “So nice to have you in my life”.
♥ Be sensitive to stress (give a shoulder rub, run an errand or picking up an item without being asked
♥ Place a thank you note on a balloon and float it into the office or bedroom.
♥ Make your own list, A to Z, why you are thankful for your mate (and plan a red hot way to give it!)
(PS: I’d love for you to join me on the 26 day Red Hot Wife Challenge. I send a daily email of encouragement as THANKS for joining in on the journey of becoming a more loving person!)
Pam and Bill Farrel are the authors of 44 books, international speakers, and Directors of www.Love-Wise.com They are thankful to their publishers: Harvest House, Tyndale, IVP, Cook, Thomas Nelson, Oasis Audio, Focus on the Family—and to ALL the bookstore owners who carry their titles!