Kathy Collard Miller
Greetings from Kathy Collard Miller from the Southern California desert near Palm Springs.
For two-and-a-half years, my mother-in-law, Audrey, lived with Larry and I. God used that time to purify our motives and develop greater selflessness. Audrey suffered from Lewy-Body Dementia, which caused her to be paranoid and have delusions and hallucinations. It was a difficult time where we learned to slow down our reactions and work through what was really motivating us.
I, Kathy, remember one morning Audrey was eating her bran cereal. Every morning I had to soak the cereal in milk for at least thirty minutes to make it soft. But this morning the delusion of her Lewy Body Dementia was “alive.”
She said to me, “There’re rocks in my cereal. I know you’re trying to kill me.”
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Hello from Kathy Collard Miller, here in the Southern California desert.
It was always difficult for my mother to relax and trust God, and even when she was in her 80’s, it seemed like the Lord was still inviting her to trust Him more. My sister and I would say to each other, “You’d think the Lord would stop working on people when they get old enough, but He sure seems to still be working on mom.”
That was true up until the last few days of her life. When it was time for hospice, she moved into my home but didn’t seem to really comprehend that time for her was short. In fact, ten days before she joined
Great-gramma with great-grandson Raphael
Jesus in heaven, she complained to me, “Kathy, I just hate lying here and not accomplishing anything. I should be doing something!”
I didn’t quite know what to say except, “Well, mom, you are 89. Maybe it’s time for you to just relax and let me take care of you.” She gave me a half-hearted smile like she wasn’t quite convinced.
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Hello from Kathy Collard Miller in the desert of Southern California
If I were to ask you whether you’re a perfectionist, you’d most likely say “no.” The explanation for saying that? “Well, I don’t get anything perfect! After all, perfectionists reach perfection.”
Would you be shocked if I told you that’s not accurate? Not only is it not accurate but I would almost predict that some perfectionist tendencies are blocking your efficiency and joy in your writing. Because one definition of a perfectionist is: “A person who takes great pains and passes them on to others.”
Want to know if you have some of those “great pains” or are giving them to others?
Take this perfectionism quiz by keeping track of how many of these statements you relate to:
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Greetings from Sarah Sundin
in California! What a joy for me to interview Kathy Collard Miller, author of
fifty books. When I first started writing in 2000, my mother bragged at the
bowling alley about her daughter working on a novel. Kathy “happened” to be on
the other team. This sweet woman gave my mother her phone number—and answered
dozens of my newbie questions. She was my first contact with the writing
community, and I will always be grateful for her generosity and encouragement.
how did you get into writing?
I’d always had the heart of a
writer—trying to write a novel in junior high; being the high school newspaper
editor—but I didn’t know what being a writer actually meant. I just knew I
loved writing and being at my desk. It wasn’t until I took an adult education
class on writing when I was 26 years old that I learned about a query letter
(in 1977). Because God had just delivered me from being a child abuser at that
time (I’d been a Christian for seven years), I thought I should see if anyone
would want to print that story. I subscribed to Moody Monthly magazine
and sent them a query letter about my idea. They replied they’d like to see the
article and they ended up accepting it. It was published in 1978. Then I went
to my first writers conference in 1980 at Forest Home in So. CA, and God
birthed the desire to write a book about my story. It took several years for
that book to be published in 1985.
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