She’s the woman we all love to hate, and she used to really bug me. The woman Proverbs 31 praises so highly—she’s just too perfect. She meets everyone’s needs with a smile and looks great doing it. And she gets up early, well before sunrise, and gets right to work. Ugh.

Through the years I’ve tried to follow her example. I had my couponing-and-three-store-menu-planning phase, my make-crafts-and-sell-them phase, and I’ve even had more than one let’s-get-up-before-the-sun-and-get-this-day-going phase. But eventually I learned I was trying to copy this much-maligned woman’s activities rather than her character.

What the Proverbs 31 woman actually models for us is a godly life. She’s a wife and mother, a homemaker and an entrepreneur, but she could just as easily be a college student, a single mom, a grandmother. She’s faithful, diligent, industrious, generous, compassionate, kind, and wise—all virtues the book of Proverbs advises women and men to develop. Why? Because they honor God and make life work.

When we fear (respect and honor) the Lord, we begin to understand the world and ourselves as His, which is true knowledge. Taking what we know to be true and applying it correctly is living with godly wisdom. That’s what the book of Proverbs is all about, and that’s what the Proverbs 31 woman is good at.

Turns out there’s no reason to dislike her after all!


Diane Stortz

Diane Stortz

Diane Stortz writes best-selling books for children and adults. Her goal is making God’s wonders known to the next generation. Her newest book, from which this post is taken, is Encountering God’s Heart for You: 365 Devotions from Genesis to Revelation, available for pre-order now. Diane and her husband have two married daughters and five young grandchildren—all boys!

Encountering God's Heart for You by Diane Stortz

Encountering God’s Heart for You by Diane Stortz






4 thoughts on “The Woman We All Love to Hate

MaryAnn Diorio

August 12, 2019 - 08 : 18 : 35

Amen! Great insights! Thank you, Diane! Loved your short post packed with a lot of punch! Blessings to you!


    Diane Stortz

    August 12, 2019 - 08 : 35 : 56

    I’m glad you enjoyed it, MaryAnn!


Karisa Moore

August 16, 2019 - 10 : 32 : 46

Yes! So easy for me to get caught up in the “doing” of the Proverbs 31 woman that I forget the writer is pointing out her state of being. The work of her hands flows out of the work of her heart. Great encouragement, Diane, as I invite peace into my home through God’s character shaping.


Diane Stortz

August 16, 2019 - 11 : 06 : 40

Me too, Karisa!


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