Author Interviews

A Chat with Author Pam Farrel

Sarah Sundin
Sarah Sundin

Greetings from Sarah Sundin in California! What better way to usher in summer than to chat with an author who lives on a boat! My fellow Californian Pam Farrel has written forty-eight books and is a sought-after speaker, often writing and speaking with her husband, Bill. Welcome Pam as she speaks to us from her heart.

Pam, please tell us about your book.

Pam Farrel
Pam Farrel

Part of the Discovering the Bible Series, Discovering Joy in Philippians: A Creative Bible Study Experience is an interactive 11-week journey to joy through:

  • Daily Lessons for each chapter to help you dive deeper into the heart of Scripture and incorporate joy builder activities
  • Choosing Joy Devotions and inspirational quotes.
  • Creative Connections including bookmarks and coloring pages and exploring faith through artistic expression.

Sunday Reflection: Humble Choices

“. . . those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Luke 14:11)


He sat in my office, his marriage in ruins, yet he was pridefully proclaiming all the things his wife needed to do, his kids needed to do and even what God needed to do. Nothing seemed to be his fault. Is arrogance was the biggest roadblock to healing his own family. We can all drift into conceit and smugness unless we are willing to be humble. To humble means “to depress and in Hebrew, the word humbly implies a stance of bowing, stooping or crouching as in worship.

Every day we have a choice. We can humbly cooperate with the way life is, we can bow to trust God or we can arrogantly try to define life the way we want it to be and attempt to boss God around.

Is there an area of your life that needs to bow to God’s will and God’s ways?

Pray together
Stay together


Pam Farrel is an international speaker, author of 45 books including A Couples’ Journey with God,

which inspired this post.

A Couple’s Journey
with God
Harvest House



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Bill and Pam Farrel
Bill and Pam Farrel

Bill and I are known as relationship specialists; experts on love and romance and marriage educators. We have even been called “The Barbie and Ken of Love”.  Our ministry is and our goal is to help people in all their most vital relationships by intersecting God’s wisdom with people’s desire to be loving. So what this means is we need to live out our love! We need to make every effort to get along, work through issues, and give plenty of mercy and grace to protect our marriage. PamandBill is like one word.

We are unified, our brand is “us”.

You have a brand too.

You are an expert in something . . .or you wouldn’t have a book.

How hard are you working at protecting the brand? Are you watching over the little things in your life?

The Bible tells us this is a priority in MANY places– here are two:

Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump of dough? Clean out the old leaven so that you may be a new lump . .  . (1 Cor 5:6-7)

Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life. (Proverbs 4:23)

The A Priority is to guard our life and protect the gift God gave.

Which part of the Proverb would you choose to live out?:

(A) He who walks in integrity walks securely,


(B) But he who perverts his ways will be found out. (Proverbs 10:9)

Well done- you selected A!  Wise Choice!

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He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk in integrity (Proverbs 2:7)

For the Lord is righteous, He loves righteousness; The upright will behold His face. (Psalms 11:7)

For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly. (Psalms 84:11)

7 Simple Skills for Every Woman by Pam Farrel
7 Simple Skills for Every Woman by Pam Farrel

In my newest book, 7 Simple Skills for Every Woman: Success in Keeping It Together, I share that on my desk are several items to remind me that it is imperative to “practice what I preach”:

1. Photos of me with Bill as well as photos of our children, grandchildren, mentees, parents– all those whose lives I would undermine if I cheated on my vows.

2. A compass given to me by a wise mentor in leadership who said, “Let God’s voice be your compass”

3. All my Bibles. Looking at God’s Word all day every day reminds me to be in it– and to let it impact the way I live.

4. A barnacle attached to a stone as a reminder that a barnacle cannot live apart from the stone just as I cannot survive apart from Christ, the Rock of my Salvation.

5. A frame with verses about living with integrity visible on the front– and stories of the harmful wake others in leadership left when they wandered from Christ.

6. A heart paper weight to remind me to have a whole heart for God.

7. A figurine with an umbrella on it, reminding me I want to stay under “God’s umbrella of blessing” For it is You who blesses the righteous man, O Lord, You surround him with favor as with a shield. (Psalms 5:12)

8.A turtle because if you see a turtle on a fence post you should ask, “How did that turtle get there? Turtles can’t climb so someone placed the turtle on high. In the same way, God gave me my platform, so God can take me down. “Be humble in the Lord’s presence, and he will honor you.” (James 4:10)

What will you place on your desk to remind you that “those that honor God. God honors“?(1 Sam 2:30)

Guard your heart and your life . . .  that is guarding your brand.



Pam Farrel
Pam Farrel

Pam Farrel is an international speaker, author of 40 books and the co-director of Love-Wise— and she and Bill have been happily married for 35 years and her goal is to help as many others as possible discover the love of God so they can love others. Their life verse is “We love because He {God} first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

Encouragement Ministry

Protect Your Pastor’s Marriage

Gal. 6:6 says, “One who is taught the word must share all good things with the one who teaches.” Bill and I have spent our entire married life in some form of ministry.

couples journey and bible

Around the world are selfless clergy couples who run to the side of others in need to give God’s love, so here are three things you can do to LUV your pastor or the clergy couples of your church (or parachurch) staff:

Listen—then take action: Tune in and get your eyes off yourself and ask honest questions to see if you really know what your pastor and his wife are dealing with personally. Some common struggles of clergy couples are economic distress or pressure; creating uninterrupted time together ; keeping a positive attitude in the middle of handling negative situations, or same stressors as anyone else: a strong willed or special needs child, a prodigal teen, health issues, or life stage drama like mid-life crisis. Be one of the people that surround the shepherd of your flock and offer a listening ear and tangible help. Your empathy and words of kindness and affirmation will also go a long way in helping easy this burden.

Underwrite: Be generous. Give funding to the pastor(s) to for the kind of things that keep a marriage healthy. Send gift cards for dates, pay for a weekend away in a nice hotel or loan out your cabin.   Oftenmoney gift Christian conference centers offer free housing to clergy couples, so even a small church can raise money for the gas and a couple meals and partner with the local Christian Camp to give your clergy couple some time alone together. In the church budget should also be funds for an annual marriage conference for the clergy couples to attend. Also, if there are clergy denominational meetings or conferences, add in a little extra to sponsor the spouse to attend too. Ministry minded marriages that have peers and mentors who they can be authentic with will have people to turn to in times of stress or crisis and this will strengthen the ministry marriage.

Volunteer: If you have a strong marriage, offer to help head up the marriage ministry at yourLifewayLeaderSet church, or at least part of it: offer to run a small group for married couples; chair a marriage retreat committee, be the point person for a couples, date night, or write a blog on marriage for the church website or weekly bulletin. If you want to help, but are short on time, use a DVD driven curriculum like our Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.  If your marriage has survived and overcome a particular challenge, offer to the pastor to meet with other couples who might come to him for the same issue. If your pastor has young children, volunteer to babysit (or arrange the childcare) so they can have a weekly date night. Also offer to be part of a prayer team for the clergy couple or offer to pay for counseling, or the cost of getting them to a ministry minded intensive. (At Love-Wise we have a “Marriage On the Rocks?” resource list of multiple options to rescue and rebuild a relationship).

With a little bit of LUV we can show care for those who care so much for others.

Bill and Pam Farrel
Bill and Pam Farrel

Pam and Bill Farrel are international speakers, relationship specialists, and authors of 40 books, including The Secret Language of Successful Couples, 10 Best Decisions a Leader Can Make and 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make. The Farrels are focused on helping individuals and couples become Love-Wise. (