After an unusually cool spring and month of June, our typical Texas summer has come in with the fireworks of the 4th of July this past week. But those of us who have grown up in Texas, are used to it, and we get through it every year. Some may feel like the fireworks fly when it comes to the Q&A time after one has delivered one’s talk. Well, I have a confession to make …
Golden Keyes Parsons here in Central Texas wondering if the cold weather of this winter will end anytime soon. We have had several cycles of freezing degree nights swinging to 80's during the day. I don't ever remember the weather fluctuations being this varied and long lasting before.
Golden Keyes Parsons sending greetings from a frigid Central Texas winter day. We moved from the mountains to get away from the cold! Nevertheless, I'm warm and cozy by the fire, ready to share more tips about speaking. When we prepare our message or talk for a group, we anticipate they will listen with rapt attention to every word. The truth is …
“Manners are the beginning of integrity.”
The first time I read that quote I thought how simple yet profound. I pondered for a moment how simple etiquette reveals immediately whether or or not we courteous, considerate and grateful. And, when it is present it refreshes everyone who happens to encounter it.
As speakers, we are often the ultimate focal point of someone’s event. Therefore we are lavished with praise, gifts and our every need is attempted to met. In return, what are we giving beside a great talk?
Having been both a Women’s Ministry Leader and still a speaker I have sat on both sides of the table. Therefore, I’d like to share from a Hostess’s point of view for a moment. For example, I remember…
Observing one speaker’s table manners and how it revealed her lack of patience. She immediately reached across the table for the sweetener and in an irritable manner called the waitress because she hadn’t gotten her 2nd cup of coffee quickly enough
Note: Your hostess wants you to model what they want the audience to become.
On the other hand another speaker stated “Please,” upon her every request and “Thank You” at every appropriate opportunity. Note: A hostess desires to be respected as a person and leader.
One quite famous speaker revealed her gratitude for the opportunity to speak by giving more in her gift to us than the honorarium we were able to afford to give her. Note: Prepare to always have a gift to say thank you to your host church and something special also for the one who might host you personally.
These examples helped set the bar for me as an up and coming speaker.
As Christian speakers we can re-ignite the flame of good manners by modeling them whether its daily among family and friends or when we are called to speak at a humble or highly attended event.